Your 20s Are Messy, Magical, and All About You

Let’s be real for a second.

If you're in your 20s and feel like you’re supposed to have everything figured out, please let that pressure go. Right now.

Your 20s are not about perfection or having it all together.

They’re about discovering who you are without all the noise, even if that discovery process feels confusing, lonely, or downright overwhelming at times.

When I was in my 20s, I didn’t have a clue what I was doing.

I was trying to be everything for everyone while still learning how to be someone to myself.

I thought love would fix me.

I thought a good job meant I had it all figured out.

I thought not knowing what I wanted meant I was failing.

Truth is, I was just living life like most twenty-something women do… figuring it out one misstep and breakthrough at a time.

If you’re in this stage now, I want to tell you what I wish someone had told me.

Your 20s Are for Exploring Everything

This is your decade to try things out.

Travel to places that tug at your heart.

Take that job that feels a little scary but exciting.

Switch paths if something no longer feels right.

You’re not locked into anything just yet.

More importantly, give yourself room to feel your way through life instead of forcing every move to be the “right” one.

Growth doesn’t happen in straight lines.

Sometimes the most random experience becomes the one that shapes you the most.

It's Okay (Actually, Healthy) to Be Single

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single in your 20s.

In fact, I truly believe being single can be the best gift you give yourself during this time.

You get to focus completely on you.

• What do you like?

• What lights you up?

• What do you value in friendships, work, and love?

• What do you need to heal from before bringing someone else into your life?
  

Being single doesn’t mean something is missing.

Sometimes it’s exactly the space you need to grow into the woman you’re meant to be.

I didn’t realize how much I needed that space until I looked back and saw how much of myself I gave away too early, to people who didn’t earn it.

Friendships Will Change… and That’s Okay

In your 20s, you might lose some friendships that once felt like forever.

That can feel heartbreaking. But this decade is all about shifting and growing.

You’re learning who your real people are.

Don’t be afraid to let go of connections that don’t feel genuine anymore.

Your time and energy are sacred.

And don’t be afraid to make new friends later in life either.

Some of my deepest connections didn’t happen until I got clear about who I was and what kind of energy I wanted around me.

Mistakes Are Part of the Package

You’re going to mess up.

You’re going to choose the wrong people, miss opportunities, stay in the wrong job, say the wrong thing, or not speak up when you should have.

That’s all part of the journey. You are not supposed to get everything right.

Mistakes don’t make you a failure.

They make you human.

What matters most is what you learn from them.

Your 20s are like the rough draft of your life.

You’re allowed to edit, rewrite, and cross things out completely.

Don’t Rush the Process of Finding Yourself

This decade is more about asking questions than having answers.

Who am I? What do I believe? What kind of life do I really want?

It’s about exploring and redefining as you go.

Let go of timelines.

There’s no magic age when everything clicks.

You don’t need to be married by 28, in your dream career by 25, or own a home by 29.

Those are external milestones. Focus on the internal ones instead.

Confidence. Self-respect. Emotional maturity. Inner peace. That’s the real glow-up.

Here's What would have Helped Me Most in My 20s

• Journaling everything: the good, bad, messy thoughts and all.

• Spending time alone, even if it felt uncomfortable at first.

• Setting boundaries and not feeling bad about it.

• Traveling with no agenda, just curiosity.

• Asking for help, even when I was scared to.

• Trusting that I don’t need to have it all figured out.
  

If you're in your 20s right now, I want you to know this: you are not behind. You are not broken.

You are becoming.

This is your time to stretch, grow, make a few glorious mistakes, and learn to love the person you’re becoming.

This decade might not be easy, but it will absolutely shape you in the most incredible ways if you let it.

So live it. Fully. Wildly. Imperfectly.

And when in doubt, remind yourself of this… you're exactly where you need to be.

Now I’d love to hear from you What have your 20s looked like so far?

Or, if you’re past that decade, what do you wish someone told you back then?

Your story could be just the thing another woman needs to hear.

Would you be willing to share?