I Don’t Chase Anymore: What I Learned About People

Life doesn’t come with a handbook, and neither do people.

Between the heartaches, the lies, the betrayals, downfalls and just plain life happening, I’ve been through a lot.

I’ve had people come and go so many times in my life that I lost count. Some were users. Some were manipulators.

Some were meant to be seasonal. And some just didn’t care as much as I hoped they would.

After all these years, and all that pain, I finally had to ask myself: What am I doing this for?

Why am I breaking my back for people who can’t even show up consistently? Why do I keep holding space for people who only reach out when it benefits them?

So, I made a decision. A real one.

From now on, I choose me.

And let me tell you this, it all started with self-respect. That simple but powerful mindset shift saved me from years of emotional drain and abuse.

Here are the honest truths I’ve learned about people over time:

• If they wanted to call you, they would.

• If they wanted to text you back, they would.

• I stopped making excuses for silence or inconsistent effort from other people.

• If they are not showing up, accept that they don’t want to.

• I will no longer waste my time trying to convince someone to love me.

• I will not beg anyone to see my worth.

• People prioritize what they care about. If I’m not a priority, I get it now.

• When someone genuinely wants you in their life, you will feel it in their actions. No confusion. No guessing.

  

These are not just sayings, these are facts I've learned over time. And the moment I stopped chasing people was the moment I felt free.

• I don’t do drama anymore.

• I don’t do half-hearted connections.

• I don’t wait for someone to figure out if they want me in their life or not. 

If someone can’t show up for me like I do for them, I let them go without a second thought. I’ve learned that peace is better than fake company.

So now, I keep it simple:

• I pour into people who pour into me.

• I let go of those who don’t know how to value my presence.

• I spend time with those who respect my energy and match my consistency.

• I’ve become my own priority. My peace matters. My time is precious. And my heart? It’s no longer up for grabs to people who don’t know how to care for it.

If that means walking alone sometimes, so be it. I’d rather walk alone with dignity than with people who make me feel like an option.

Let me ask you this What’s one hard lesson you’ve learned about people that helped you protect your peace?

Share it in the comments. You never know who might need to hear it today.