When Holding On Hurts More Than Letting Go

There’s this thing we do sometimes.

We hold on. Tight.

To people. To jobs. To relationships. To friendships.

Even when deep down, we already know they are no good for us.

And I’m not talking about the “a little rough patch” kind of thing.

I’m talking about the kind of situation that slowly drains the life out of you.

The kind that keeps you up at night, weighs on your chest, and makes your smile feel fake.

You know it’s wrong for you. You feel it. You see the signs.

But you stay.

Why? Because letting go feels scary.

The Signs You Already Know

• You feel exhausted just thinking about it

• You’re more anxious than happy around it

• Your mood changes in ways you can’t ignore

• You keep making excuses for why you’re still there

• Your gut is screaming but you keep shushing it
  

Our minds try to justify it. But our bodies? Our energy? Our spirit? They don’t lie.

Your intuition is Speaking

That uneasy feeling? That’s your inner warning system.

Your intuition. Your vibes. Your gut check.

When something is truly for you, it will not consistently leave you drained or stressed.

When something is not for you, it will hurt you until you let it go.

That pain is not punishment. It’s a nudge. A sign.

Why We Stay Longer Than We Should

• Fear of being alone

• Not wanting to start over

• Hoping they will change

• Feeling like you’ve “invested too much” to walk away
  

The truth? None of these reasons are worth your peace of mind.

The Power of Letting Go

When you finally release what’s not for you, something happens.

You breathe easier.

Your shoulders feel lighter.

Your thoughts get clearer.

You create space for better.

And yes, sometimes letting go will leave you alone for a while.

But there is a quiet power in that.

Alone time is not empty.

It’s where you rediscover who you are, what you love, and how to treat yourself right.

That’s self love.

And it’s the best love there is.

So if something is hurting you, draining you, stressing you, and deep down you know it’s wrong for you… listen to that voice.

Respect your peace. Give it to God. And move on.

Because the right things won’t break you down.

And the wrong things will never suddenly become right.

What about you?

Have you ever finally let go of something that was hurting you, and later realized it was the best decision you ever made?

Your story might be the encouragement another woman needs today.